- Before meeting a shadchan, remember that they want to help and they want to see you married and happy. Don’t be intimidated.
- It’s a good idea to submit a picture with your profile. Even though it may seem demeaning, it just helps the shadchan put a face to the name. (If you don’t want the picture to be passed out, you can say that– and it should be respected.)
- Ask each shadchan what his/her preference in communication style is– email, text, whatsapp, phone call… It might be a good idea to contact the shadchan once a month to check in and see if anything came up.
- If the shadchan invested a lot in a shidduch and it doesn’t work out, it may a good idea to give them a small gift card or Shabbos gift. They worked hard and that should be appreciated– plus, it helps them remember you better!
